Love is not wrong; it is often mistaken to love someone and misinterpret love. It does not matter whether it is true love or not. When you feel that love is true to your condition, if there is a complexity or the elements of that love are not straightforward, it will be interpreted as something terrible. Even though love is about emotions and feelings, we should consider reason and appropriateness. Therefore, it is a reason for people to restrain themselves. What if not? Is there a reason for people who do not restrain themselves?
A woman once told me that the most heartbreaking love song she had (at that time) was Macy Gray's I Try. I had never listened to it before. When I first listened to it, I felt the melody was not sad. It seemed like a song to listen to quickly. But the important part is the lyrics that summarize people who cannot move on or continue. When combined with her love story at that time, it is not difficult to understand and feel sad about why this song was created (try listening to it at the end of the article).
People who have experienced it may understand, but people who have never been through such a situation may wonder why. If there is love that is on top of things, it is unlikely to be happy and is unlikely to end well (Happy Ending), so why do you still force yourself?
In the beginning, you may have to separate it from bad love. Playboy women/men because the latter may not necessarily have to restrain themselves because they are not wrong from the beginning. But in people who are called "in love", there will always be reasons.
When inquiries and various experiences are sorted and considered, the reasons for people who do not restrain themselves may be difficult to judge, but the origin (root cause) is easier to see because there are 2 main causes: not knowing and not intending.
Not knowing means genuinely not knowing that he had someone else before, already had, until later, not knowing that it is complicated, not knowing that he is being deceived... or others. Even though the root cause is not knowing, which does not seem wrong, outsiders looking at it will think and feel that after knowing, why did you withdraw, not back out...
The next cause is not intending, which can take the form of just playing, looking challenging, not being sincere, not thinking anything at first, or just thinking of having fun, but after a while, it becomes serious.
In the end, the cause of people who do not restrain themselves, no matter what the cause, the final result is not being able to withdraw. Because if they knew before it happened, before falling into it, they would not have to try. It is not called restraining themselves. Emotions and feelings are delicate matters and are sensitive to different people. Of course, it is best not to bring fire near oil. Do not let yourself go to the point of having to control yourself because it is difficult and impossible to control.
Sometimes, people do not control themselves simply because they are careless with their hearts and do not think of controlling anything in the first place. When they try to control themselves later, they cannot. They cannot control it in time, for the most part. It depends on how it ends. That's all.
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