This year’s final article, as usual, has been on my mind for about two months. This is due to a period in my life that could be described as “workaholic,” or, more positively, as being “committed to work.” With the phrase “No one gets everything,” I remind myself that it means when we’re overly focused on one thing this year, some things are inevitably lost. When we focus on one aspect of success, the other element may not be balanced...
As regular fans will know, some may have quit because there’s nothing to read right now. This clearly shows that this year has been a difficult time managing my time in many areas. “Because it’s a choice...” It’s not that I don’t love writing, don’t enjoy it, or don’t prioritize it. I secretly think that when I retire, I’ll have plenty of time to write. Therefore, I need to prioritize things that will help me retire early. But that’s not the main point...
Before writing this article, I revisited last year’s final article, “What is Success?” and another related article, “Just Maintaining It Won’t Do It...” It’s another time I’m reading my own writing to remind myself that this year, I’ve accomplished many things that have made progress in my career, with tangible results and personal development, including the role of family leader, which I consider myself to be doing well (this is a personal story, but those around me will understand). These are all aspects of happiness and success.
But if you examine yourself or evaluate your goals for the year, it’s not difficult to guess. The things above come at the cost of “self-care,” something I’ve been thinking about and realizing all year, but when the time comes, I still can’t do it. I make excuses for myself, saying I’m tired and needing a break, and so on. While this may seem reasonable because I’m working so hard, the result is “unbalanced.”
With every success, no one indeed gets everything. It’s necessary to make some trade-offs. But that doesn’t mean you have to trade everything for one thing, because at some point, it won’t be worth it. So, for you, “What did we trade for in the past year?” Was it worth it? Was it good? Was it balanced?
You might have a year where everything was great, a year where it wasn’t worth it at all, a year where it wasn’t good at all, a year where it was well-balanced but nothing seemed to improve, or an unbalanced year that was worth it. With these answers, if it wasn’t worth it, it’s easy to think about making changes. But if it wasn’t balanced but worth it, why would it be worth it? And if it’s “worth it or successful, is it necessary to have balance?” Since we can’t have everything...
There’s probably no one correct answer for everyone. The key is that what we consider worthwhile or successful is different for each of us. We can’t balance the weight of each, because we don’t accept the loss equally. And some people don’t even realize it’s worth it. It’s a profoundly personal journey.
From one perspective, considering this success, what we’re gaining right now, if we reflect on what we’re achieving, not just today but also into the future, it may not matter if what’s unbalanced or lacking today is not clearly identified. It might be worth the trade-off.
But a more interesting question might be: what are the obstacles that prevent this value or success from being the same? If it’s brought back to the same thing that’s missing, it might start to feel unworthy. An example might be easier to understand...
Here’s an example from something I’ve reflected on this year (and thus shared my thoughts): For me, if my current success falters or regresses, it’s because I’m sick and can’t work. Everything would be bad. So, not caring about my health now or maintaining balance might not be a problem. However, if I become sick or can’t work as usual, everything will revert to normal.
And this is difficult, even more difficult than just success. Sometimes we’re not sure whether reducing something and adding something will produce the same results. For example, working less and taking better care of ourselves. However, spending time on one thing will undoubtedly have a profound impact on another, and individual factors are often difficult to counter.
In conclusion, I encourage you to engage in deep self-reflection. By doing so, you can tune in to achieve the most balanced possible year. Here’s to a year of growth, balance, and continued success
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