It’s challenging to conclude a relationship between two people correctly. The best thing about this love article is that if we’re not meant for someone, we want to say, “Don’t find a reason for him to leave.”
Many couples are unsuccessful and unfulfilled and have different forms and factors. Some have been together for a long time, some haven’t, some have shown signs of it before, and some have left unexpectedly. But when the relationship ends, one party usually “doesn’t want” or wants the other party to leave.
I believe that those who are not ready to end the relationship will have questions or want to know the “reason” why he broke up with us or left us. “Why?” Even though there are initial reasons to know or see, such as that he has someone else, it’s still a question of why he went to see someone else. Or what’s wrong with us? Why did he do that? Did he decide like that?
The dividing line is between those who accept and those who can’t take it. Because those who can accept it probably don’t want to ask about the reason. Knowing that he has shown his intentions, we must accept it because we can’t force it. Or if we’re suspicious and the other party gives a reason, we will take it willingly because we know we can’t change anything.
However, the problem will be with those who “can’t accept it,” regardless of the reason. No matter what he answers, he tends not to accept it anyway. Starting from arguing that it is not valid, or even if it is true, secretly resisting by bringing up other things to compare, such as “You are not good either” or “Have you never seen any other good things about me?” If you review it, it is entirely different from what he wants, to the point that he is no longer satisfied with it. Therefore, arguing or disagreeing will never help. At most, it is a bargaining for a chance to extend the time.
Especially in cases where the other party is not clear about the reasons, it will cause us, the ones who do not accept, to have thoughts that go round and round, such as what is not good? What is wrong? Why has he changed? What makes him not the same? It is like trying to find a reason that looks like we are trying to find a way to prevent the rain from falling or asking why the rain must fall until the clothes we hung to dry are wet. The point is that the clothes are already soaked. We can’t do anything about what has already happened. Many of us already know why, but we don’t accept it. On the other hand, it is unreasonable because what happened was not real. Or if he truly loves us, he did not like us from the beginning, whether he is aware of it or not.
Therefore, when someone is going to leave, if we try to find a reason for him to leave, all we will get is negative results because it will make us, who cannot accept it, go around and round and cannot accept it even more. It would be better to change the reason why he left; why don’t we move on or stay where we are? For what? What do we gain? Since he’s gone.
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